Lessons Learned in 2019
Lessons Learned in 2019
I sit here today preparing for a great year in 2020 and I have spent a lot of time reflecting on the challenges that I faced in 2019.
All told, it was a very tough year. Probably the hardest of my life. The good news is that it was a year of learning and growth. My Mom passed away, I gave up on my partner of many years, I had a terrible financial year, paid off my IRS debt. and poured my heart, soul, and money into building this blog, my other companies, and helping people find their life’s purpose.
I am writing this for several reasons. The first is clarity. It helps to put things in perspective by writing them down. This separates the facts from the feelings. The second is to put it out there in public so I can be held accountable for my goals and actions. Finally, I hope to inspire others by letting them know they are not alone in their struggles.
In fact, we ALL face challenges. It is part of growing. We learn nothing without them. Give thanks for your struggles for they are God’s gift of growth. If you embrace them and learn from them, you will move forward to bigger and better things.
Lesson One: Be Humble
Never say it can’t get any worse! It can. And it probably will until we learn what we are supposed to learn. Instead, work on the challenges as they come, and never give up. This is the time to ask for help. Look for people who have your best interest at heart and have been through the issue you are facing. Look for several opinions, and form your own. BE HUMBLE! This is not a time to blame others. Take responsibility and seek to learn from it.
Lesson Two: Plan the Road Ahead
Take the time to reflect on the year ahead. Plan your goals. Visualize where you will be when 2020 comes to an end. Map out the habits and activities needed to make this vision a reality. Share it with accountability partners. Focus on the 20% of activities that drive 80% of the results. Start working on it today.
Lesson Three: Divest Yourself from Saboteurs
The hardest thing I had to do was leave my love and partner of several years. One thing came up over and over again in the 60 books I read this year. If you are in an abusive relationship, get out.
There was not a day that went by that I wasn’t criticized. My self-esteem was so low, I didn’t even like myself. Every day I heard comments like: your hair looks bad, Are you really going to wear that, you are too fat, you need to fix your teeth, you need to fix your eyes, you need this, you need that, you can’t do this, nobody wants to hear about what you do, and what you accomplished in your life.
On top of this, I wasn’t allowed to hold meetings, take trips, go out with my friends, talk on the phone with prospects. If I did, she told me she would leave me. Yet she was free to do whatever she wanted. I put her first in my life, and she put me last. She traveled the world without me and I finally gave up.
I got my dignity back. I am now focused on work, making progress, and helping others. It will take a long time, but I will get over her. Happiness and prosperity are returning to my life.
Lesson Four: Life Happens. Deal With it!
In the middle of all my struggles, (when I was thinking it can’t get any worse), my Mom passed away. It was devastating. She was a true gift from God and was an amazing lady. I felt lost. Thankfully, I know where she is, and I am grateful that God loaned her to me for 60 of her 86 years. We can plan for the death of a loved one, but there is no way to prepare for the impact it has on us. The only solace I found was in talking to God, my Dad, a few close friends, and family members. Lean on God and loved ones to help put things in perspective. Time will take care of the rest.
Lesson Five: Identity Your Three Worst Habits and Fix Them
If you can fix your three worst fears or habits, you will make a huge impact on your future. This requires being brutally honest with yourself. It also means finding a partner to keep you accountable. Take a moment. Write down the three biggest things that are keeping you from being where you wish to be. Start working on the habits needed to fix these issues immediately. You will be richly rewarded for it.
Lesson Six: Focus, Work Hard, and Never Give Up!
Focus on just a few things. Work at them until they are a part of your routine. Let them become habits and second nature to you. Most importantly, Never Give Up! Success comes just around the corner from that point where you start to question your direction. Keep on going. At that point of wanting to quit, you are almost there.
I hope this gives you some fuel to follow your dreams and make 2020 your transformational year. You are great and gifted. Use the gifts you have been given. Good luck and God bless.