Mothers and Emotional Wellness
Mothers and Emotional Wellness. The second in a series of ten articles on women and emotional wellness. From the book Women’s Emotional Wellness by Robert C Hoffman.
Being a Parent Can Impact Your Emotional Wellness
As a mother, you will experience many emotions. There will be times in your life where your days are filled with joy and happiness, and then there will be times where you feel stressed and depressed. From having a baby to raising a teenager, different emotions will arise.
Pregnancy Is An Emotional Time
One very emotional time that will occur in your life is when you bring another life into the world. After all, it’s a big responsibility for you as a mother.
During pregnancy, there will be many changes in your physical appearance and your emotional state. You may experience tiredness, morning sickness, frequent urination, and a change in your moods, not to mention a growing belly.
The physical changes alone can make you feel insecure. Changes in your appearance can make you feel less lovable, which is not true of course!
You may experience feelings of anxiousness. What if things go wrong? Will there be complications? All these factors can contribute to a lack of energy and high-stress levels.
Some women develop further emotional problems, due to postpartum depression. It’s a condition caused by a sudden drop in the female reproductive hormones after giving birth. You may exhibit physical and emotional changes and symptoms such as difficulty sleeping, loss of appetite, fatigue, and frequent mood swings.
If you have a history of major depression, postpartum depression is even more likely. Symptoms include feelings of unworthiness, hopelessness, and even anger. You may also exhibit actions that could endanger you or your baby. These are the times you need to seek help immediately. Don’t go it alone!
Toddlers Can Cause More Emotional Strain
Raising a toddler can cause further emotional problems. As they grow, so too does the additional financial strain. There may also be jealousies from other family members, and your anxiety, depression or stress levels may rise.
Ensure you have support groups that can help and guide you if you feel you can’t handle things on your own. Aside from your partner, talk to your family and friends. You can also visit your obstetrician, counselor, or psychologist. Accept you need help and reach out. Take good care of yourself so that you can take good care of your child.
School Children and Your Emotional Health
When your child goes to school, they step into another stage of life. What if they have problems with their grades? This can cause them to develop low self-esteem and a poor attitude towards school in general. This affects you emotionally! After all, you want them to have a good education so that they can have a better life and future. That’s every mother’s wish for her child.
Poor grades can bring you headaches and stress as you try to help them improve their grades and take an interest in their education. You need to remain calm and identify the real cause of the problem. Getting angry and blaming your child for poor performance won’t help at all.
One of the reasons for their low grades could be that they are being bullied. So before getting emotionally upset with them, you need to get involved by visiting their school and talking to their teacher. Take an interest in their school activities, so they feel supported. In doing so, you will be helping the child, and helping to relieve your emotional upset.
You need to invest time and effort in your child. You might be busy, but the reward is worth your sacrifice for both your child’s and your own emotional health.
Emotional Problems When Raising a Teenager
This stage of your child’s life is often the most difficult, and your emotions can become stretched. They begin to go out and who knows what they are up to! Your emotional problem may become doubled, compared to when they’re still in early childhood. Dealing with a teenager is a classic source of distress and worry.
As your teenage child asks for more independence, you may feel inadequate, challenged, confused, and rejected. A more significant source of your worry is when your teenager shows disruptive and disrespectful behaviors. You may begin to wonder how you raised a child like this, and this, in turn, causes you to feel as though you have failed.
If you’ve given them a good foundation in their childhood, there is no reason why they shouldn’t become a responsible person. You have no reason to blame yourself or feel like a failure.
Your children will encounter many challenges in their life. If you have taught them your principles and values, they will fill you with pride and joy, in spite of bumps along the way. For your own emotional wellbeing, it is essential that you learn to manage these ups and downs in ways that keep you feeling in control.